Have you ever experienced the feeling that you just “click” with someone you just met?  Conversely, have you ever sat across the table from someone who was perfect on paper, but you just failed to form some type of connection with her? Contrary to what some might say, if you’re not sure how to connect with your date, there are some things you can do about it.

If You Want To Connect With Your Date, Do These Things

As you meet someone for the first time, the one thing that ultimately matters is for both of you to feel the motivation to see each other again. Is it all in fate’s hands? Not really. There are certain things that you can do to help this special connection happen.

To begin with, it is important to develop self-awareness and confidence ahead of the date. Whether you like it or not, how you feel about yourself will also affect the way your date will see you. Therefore, it is crucial that you know yourself well, that you believe in your strengths and that you are able to present yourself in the best light possible if you’re looking to make a good first impression.

Secondly, you need to get rid of the past and the emotional baggage that might possibly keep you from genuinely wanting to connect with your date. If you’re unsure that you’re ready to move on, it will most probably show. If you’re too hesitant to meet a new potential partner and be vulnerable around them, you might inadvertently sabotage yourself by passing judgment too easily and fail to make a real connection.

The third thing to do to help you establish a connection with your date is to be a good listener. Most people worry too much about the things they need to say on a date, and how to best present themselves, often forgetting to really listen to what the other person is saying. Being a good listener means wanting to communicate with someone, showing interest and respect. All these things will make you more attractive than you may imagine.

Another important state of mind to be in if you want to connect with your date is to live in the moment. Don’t worry too much about tomorrow, or your next date. Be present on your actual date, enjoy the things you’re doing, make the most of the chance you have to be with that person, be spontaneous and, above all, have fun.

Last but not least, you shouldn’t neglect the importance of the non-verbal aspects of your communication with your date. An open and friendly body language, eye contact that doesn’t freak out your dating partner but shows you are being genuine and interested, nodding your head in agreement, smiling, and maybe even some light, casual touching should complement what you are saying and make your connection more intense.

All in all, you cannot expect to make a connection with every date you go out on. However, by employing these tactics and by being in the right frame of mind, you are certain to connect with your date when the time is right and the right kind of girl is sitting opposite you.