One way for an argument to be solved is to reach a compromise in a relationship. It sounds very simple to do, but not everyone is skilled at compromising, even when it comes to giving way for the betterment of a relationship. You would be surprised at how unwilling people are because they have to get what they want.
Compromise In A Relationship Should Be Done Collaboratively
The most common misconception that people have when they hear the word compromise is that only one person has to do it. For example, two people are arguing. To alleviate the situation, one person has to adjust to the wishes of the other. This is how we, typically, understand the meaning of compromise. However, it is actually way different. To compromise in a relationship the right way, it has to be a collaborative effort. Here’s how you can do it:
1. Forget about gender roles.
Yes, women can be more sensitive than men, but it won’t always be the case. There are men who will be more in touch with their emotions. With this in mind, you have to be open to how your partner is feeling. For example, don’t assume that your girlfriend is overacting. If you’re a woman, don’t assume that your man doesn’t understand how you’re feeling.
2. There are no managers.
Try not to manage or control everything. There’s a tendency for a person in an argument to manipulate their way into “winning”. Remember that the two people in a relationship are partners. Neither one is the manager nor the subordinate.
3. Remember how committed you are.
A collaboration between couples is needed for compromise to happen. How you collaborate will depend on how committed you both are. If you have lost sight of your commitment, it’s better that you go down memory lane to really reflect why you’re with the person you’re dating.
If you go through these three simple steps, it will be easier for you to compromise the next time you have an argument with your significant other. Make an effort to learn how to solve your problems by collaborating with each other. You will emerge stronger and more connected as a couple. For more tips and reviews, read other posts on the blog.