Have you ever paid a compliment to your date? Probably, yes. Most of us have because it’s natural to tell someone that they did a good job, or are beautiful/handsome when we like them. What we don’t seem to understand, however, is there’s a fine line between giving out true compliments and flattery.
True Compliments Make You Feel Good
You might be wondering what the difference is between flattery and giving out true compliments. Well, flattery is praise which is excessive and insincere. A true compliment, on the other hand, is heartfelt. According to experts, when someone pays another person true compliments, they feel good afterward. That’s one sign. Here are some more:
True Compliments Focus On The Small Details
When you want to give out a compliment to someone, look at the details instead of saying something general. For example, you met a beautiful Asian lady online. You tell her that she’s beautiful. That’s alright, but it’s too general. If you say, that dress looks stunning on you, it would be better because you’re pointing out something specific.
Nothing In Return
True compliments do not expect praise in return. You don’t really give out compliments because you want to hear some for yourself. Nope. It is freely given as it is sincere and honest. It’s kind if narcissistic of the only reason why you’re praising other people is that you want to receive praise in return.
Looking At Action Or Choice
In other cases, compliments are far more than just praising someone because they look good. It goes beyond someone’s appearance and focuses more on choice or action. For example, you can tell someone, ” You really made this dish with love. It is delicious.” Or, you can say something like, “I like that you speak with conviction every time you talk about your political beliefs.”
Pay someone true compliments. It’s going to make you feel more confident, according to experts, and it’s going to give you plus points from your date. Yes, it’s going to take a while to perfect the art, but keep working on it until you get it right. For more dating tips and updates, read other posts on the blog.