The dating scene has changed quite a bit over the years. The playing field is more leveled since we’ve observed that women can make the first move if they choose to, men don’t have to pay for everything and both sexes can choose to multi-date (mostly observed with online dating). There are, however, a few constants that remain no matter how dynamic the dating scene has become, and these constants are common mistakes that people make when dating either online or offline. You might even be guilty of a few of them yourself:
Pushing dating to the side while you focus on your career.
Focusing on your career is not a bad thing at all. You are allowed to focus on your career but if you focus on it mainly and push dating aside (for the meantime), you might just find yourself a little bit left behind. It would be better to focus on your career and not close your doors on dating. You’re not getting any younger, honestly speaking. As time passes, you’re going to want to settle down and you can’t do that without finding a special person to share everything with.
Tweaking your online profile.
By tweaking, we mean misrepresenting yourself on your online dating profile. You know you’ve done this one before. Tweaking doesn’t just include pictures. It also includes your height, your age, and your interests. A white lie may not seem so bad, but it won’t help you find the right person.
Closing your doors to people who are not in your age range.
We all have our little preferences and, again, it’s something that’s negative, but it does become an obstacle once you close your doors to other possibilities. Age is one example of this. There’s much to debate about when talking age gaps, but it all boils down to really getting to know a person. Don’t judge someone based on their age.
Generic openers.
Most of us are probably guilty of generic openers – messages meant to spark a conversation or connection with another person online. Does the phrase copy-paste mean anything here? This probably happens because we are at a loss at what to say. The solution is simple: be creative and personalize that opener. Put a little bit of you in there.
The outside matters.
If you’re too caught up on finding the right person with the right vital statistics and facial features then your approach to dating is all wrong. Physical beauty will eventually just fade. It’s a person’s character you need to examine. It doesn’t hurt, of course, to date a 10 with an amazing personality and a sound character, but the key here is to place more importance on what you can discover on the inside.
Texting and emailing over talking.
It’s the digital age, we know, but talking is still better at bridging genuine connections between two people, even if it’s just done over the phone. Emailing and texting for weeks is alright but it would be much better just to pick that phone up and ask that person out for coffee or dinner.
Continuing to date someone who’s always negative.
Negativity depletes your energy. Negativity is also contagious. Don’t let someone dull out your shine and your passion because they push your buttons. End connections with someone who’s always depleting your energy with their negativity and nagging.
What’s your score?
Now that you know these 7, how many dating mistakes have you made that are on this list? Try not to make them again to improve your dating life and to better your chances of finding the right one.