Let’s admit to the fact that most foreign men don’t really know how to approach Chinese girls online. How do we
know this? Well, there are a lot of rants online from Chinese girls saying that the foreign men who have approached them are either racist, have said inappropriate things, are rude and are just creepy, overall. You don’t want this to happen to you and neither do we. That’s why we have your basic Dos and Dont’s when interacting with Chinese girls online:
DONT #1: Assume Their Ethnicity
Just because a lady looks Southeast Asian doesn’t mean that they’re automatically Chinese. Never assume this because it’s simply racist. We’ve come across comments of Chinese girls saying that the first line a foreign guy sent them was: “Ni hao!” No. Stop. That’s inappropriate.
DO #1: Just Say Hi
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with just saying hi and introducing yourself. You should be doing this to all the ladies who catch your attention online. A simple “Hello, my name is ____ and I found your profile interesting (you have to read their profile).” will do.
DONT #2: Talk About Your Chinese Experiences
It’s very tempting just to blurt out: “This Chinese restaurant over at _[insert location]_ was the bomb.” No. Chinese girls online don’t appreciate that. The reason is because it’s almost as if her, being Chinese, is a big deal to you. It’s the same thing when you bring up your Asian friends, Asian food and the like.
DO #2: Talk About Things on Her Profile
Her profile is what made you interested in her in the first place, right? So, instead of just randomly mentioning whatever Chinese thing you can think of, mention whatever it was that’s on her profile that made you say she’s interesting, It could be a hobby, a song she listens to, her point of view on a certain topic or even her love for animals.
DONT #3: Bring Up Stereotypes
There are plenty of stereotypes attributed to Chinese girls online. For your sake, don’t bring up any one of them. They’re stereotypes that may or may not be true. Whatever the case, it’s rather offensive to an Asian woman when all you really want to know is if she fits into a certain category.
DO #3: Get to Know Her
Instead of buying into the stereotypes, why not get to know the real person behind the stereotypes? It’s more genuine, and it shows that you are interested in the person and not in the fantasy of how a Chinese woman is.
Chinese Women are Women too
What’s interesting is that Chinese women are different in many ways. It’s both a privilege and a challenge to get to know one indepthly. The point is, we are all human beings with unique characteristics. It would be better to be yourself rather than show the Chinese women you’re interested in that you have some sort of creepy Asian fetish. At the same time, you have to look beyond the fact that a woman is Chinese in order to get to know the real her.