When we meet someone and fall head over heels for her, we may feel that the only thing that matters is being with her and doing every little thing together. It is such an exciting time in any person’s relationship, but sometimes one of the two partners may decide they want to take things slow. What exactly does it mean when a girl asks you to slow down?
What Do You Do If She Wants To Take Things Slow?
People may decide they want to slow the way a relationship is going for a number of reasons. There isn’t necessarily a reason to get upset and despair if she says that’s what she wants (although sometimes there is). Here are some of the reasons she might have for it.
One reason a girl may want to slow things down is that she has rushed into a relationship previously and it didn’t work out well. If we experience a flash-in-the-pan kind of situation once, we may choose to be more cautious in our next relationship to avoid the same thing happening again. Understand her reasons and allow her to take stock of things before you move forward.
Another reason why she may not want to give it her all from the start is that she may know her own character well enough to know she’s the kind of person who gets carried away easily. In this instance, she may be trying to do the right thing by you, trying to make sure her feelings are deep and genuine and not just lust and excitement for a new romance. Give her the time and space she needs to make sure she really does have feelings for you, saving yourself from future hurt too.
On the other hand, she could be more reluctant to move on as fast as you are willing to for fear of being ghosted. It may be that she is coming from a hurtful online flirting experience where she expressed her feelings openly and fell victim to ghosting. In this case, she will opt for a calmer, more relaxed kind of relationship where she will only express her true emotions when she feels secure enough in what you have. If you’re genuinely interested in her, you should respect her decision and subtly show her she is safe with you, so that she will seek to see/ hear more of you as she feels safer and safer.
The Worst-Case Scenarios
A fourth, less hopeful, reason she may have asked you to take things slow is that she is very unsure about the way she feels. Maybe you are more invested in the relationship that she wants to be and this is scaring her away. If this is the case, she could be after a situationship with you, not a real relationship.
Even worse, she may be trying to let you down gently by cooling things off and then distancing herself little by little as she does not have the guts to openly tell you she’s no longer interested in a relationship with you.
If you fear that the latter is the case, it’s a good idea to have the talk with her and clear the air. Be prepared to end things if the answers you get are not as pleasant as you may wish for them to be. In any case, there is no reason to waste your time trying to figure things out without discussing where you stand with her.
Whatever the reason a girl might ask you to take things slow, you can only respect her decision and, depending on why she has made it, either give your relationship some air to breathe or finish things and move on to something new and better.