We all know what ghosting is – it’s when your online date suddenly disappears on you. The person doesn’t leave a chat message, an email, or a text. He or she simply vanishes like a ghost. If you’re a consistent victim of ghosting, it’s probably time to reassess yourself and the way you date.
If Your Date Believes In Destiny, You’ll Probably Become A Victim Of Ghosting
The truth is, being a constant victim of ghosting has less to do about your own faults. The problem is with the one who is doing the ghosting. A research that studied this negative dating trend found that 25% of 550 participants (both men and women) have been ghosted. Around 20% said that they have ghosted a person they met online.
Many may be thinking, “What’s the big deal about ghosting?” Well, you need to understand that there are plenty of negative effects that come with it. Of course, it doesn’t affect the person doing it, but the effects fall on the shoulders of the victim:
- The person doesn’t really know if the relationship is over or not, causing confusion.
- The victim of ghosting doesn’t know the reason behind the disappearance which could cause anxiety.
- The person is going to feel like his or her trust was broken for obvious reasons.
So, what is the true cause of this? It’s called the “Destiny Belief” – it is the belief that one person is meant to meet his or her better half in the end. In the long run, it won’t matter who this one person dates currently. Also, it won’t matter what this one person does in his lifetime. In the end, he or she will end up with “the one”. People who have this belief usually find ghosting an acceptable way to end a relationship.
On the contrary, if your date is focused more on growth beliefs – growing as a person or growing in a relationship – it’s likely for ghosting to be offensive and unacceptable.
Your Beliefs System Matter In Dating
This research makes one thing very clear. In order for a relationship to work, the two people involved have to be on the same page, especially in their beliefs. Of course, it’s not just about believing in destiny. You should find a partner who is on the same page as you on most things – finances, children, commitment in a relationship. For more dating tips, read other posts on the blog.