Whenever we think about giving the best gift to the person we love, we immediately think about the material object this person would want to have. It could be a new phone, jewelry, or even clothes. Sure, these will make our partner happy, but these are not the best. We can do better.
Believe It Or Not, The Best Gift Is Not Something Material
If there’s one thing that you can give the love of your life that can change your relationship, it is your presence. It sounds cliche, and that’s because we always hear about this word. But, what does it really mean and why is it the best gift to give the person we love?
Presence can be interpreted in a number of ways but it essentially means being in the state of existing in the moment. It’s when you’re attention is solely focused on the person you love that you are truly present.
When you think about it, it’s something totally simple. All you have to do is pay attention or give your full attention to the person you’re with, but when was the last time you did this? Every time work, social media, friends, or family knocked, we immediately answered. This is not a bad thing but if we do too much of this, we usually have a hard time diverting our focus back to our significant other.
How Can I Become More Present
When you have identified that you lack presence in your relationship, the best way to fix this is to get rid or minimize everything that’s distracting you. For example:
- Put your phone down.
- Say no to your friends, sometimes.
- Schedule family visits.
- Leave all your work at the office.
You have to have a designated time to spend with your loved one. Surprisingly, you will find that all it takes is a little bit of your time so that you and your partner can feel connected.
When the connection is already there, you have to maintain it by being present. Forget about the lavish gifts. Forget about the luxurious trips. It’s your presence that’s the best gift that you can give.
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