4 Reasons Why Multi-Dating Online is a Good Idea

multi-dating onlineMulti-Dating online – this is when you date 2 to 3 people at the same time online. It’s simple enough to understand, but most people tend to look at multi-dating online as a no-no. There are tricks to doing it but, essentially, it’s actually a good tactic or approach to online dating and here’s why:

Reason #1: Lets you meet other people faster.

The sad thing with online dating is this: you make a connection with a person online and then that person just disappears out of the blue. This case is very common. If you’re multi-dating online, you’ll be able to avoid any serious heartache when one of your connections goes awol. It also saves you time because you don’t have to invest more of it to meet another person.

Reason #2: Helps you avoid premature assumptions.

When you’re dating one person, it’s easy to get caught up in the idea that this person might be “the one”. Women are commonly guilty of this. Dating two or three people online, however, lets you avoid this feeling because you have two others who can balance out your perspective on other possibilities. Because you are not focused on just one person, your mind is open to options.

Reason #3: Lessens anxiety when dating.

You can’t help but feel anxiety when you’re dating one person online. If you feel like you have a good thing going with someone, you try your best to make everything work instead of just letting everything fall into place naturally. The anxiety most likely comes from making the right move, sticking to a strict schedule for chatting online, and probably, contemplating on when the right time to meet is. Multi-dating online, however, has the opposite effect. You don’t sweat the small stuff so much because you have two or three people to keep you busy.

Reason #4: Your standards are maintained.

How does multi-dating online help maintain your standards? It has something to do with tolerance. When you’re so focused on a person you like online, the tendency is to tolerate what he or she is doing wrong. If that person goes beyond the boundary of what you consider to be acceptable behavior, you turn a blind eye for the fear of losing this person. However, with multi-dating, you know that you can just walk away from something unhealthy because you have other options who are so much better at treating you.

But isn’t it cheating?

No. If you’re emotionally involved with someone, and you deliberately find another person to be involved with online, that’s cheating. In multi-dating’s case, you only choose to be emotionally involved with the right one out of the two or three.  Once you’ve made your choice, you stop multi-dating and go steady.

Think of it as a dating tactic. You don’t get involved or invest too much in a person if you aren’t sure that you’re compatible. Most people won’t even call it “online dating” per say, but the idea is there. It may not be for you, but a smart online dater is going to try this tactic at least once.