3 Reasons Why Marriage to a Chinese Woman is Important

Marriage to a Chinese WomanMarriage, to a Chinese woman, is important because…

We are going to finish this sentence in today’s post. Marriage is something that most women aspire to but, in some cultures, there’s a deeper reason as to why a significant amount of importance, and by extension, pressure, is placed on women to be married. The Chinese, in particular, have this belief and we’ve come across 3 reasons why marriage is that important to a Chinese woman:

Reason #1: It Begins with History

Back in pre-modern China, there was a saying. Three of the most wonderful moments you’ll have in your life are: the imperial examination success, marriage, and having a son. With a son, the continuity of the family name is secured and so couples kept on trying until they had a boy. As a result, the family had to marry off the girl as quickly as possible for them to keep trying to have a son.

Reason #2: Wedding Gifts

This reason is still that of pre-modern China. During this time, a match-maker was involved in deciding who is fit to marry who. The whole match-making process involves proposing, birthday matching, presenting betrothal gifts, presenting wedding gifts, setting a wedding date and, last is, the wedding ceremony.

Now before we go any further, we have to understand that the population in pre-modern China was very much what it’s like now – mostly poor, some middle class, a few rich. Let’s go back to the whole match-making process and let’s focus our attention on the presenting of the wedding gifts phase. This is the greatest etiquette in the process because the gifts symbolize the respect and kindness towards the girl’s family as well as the male’s capability of providing a life for the female. Usually, prolific gifts were given during this phase.

Reason #3: Decision of the Parents

Here’s the last reason we found. It basically boils down to the parents’ decision. In the olden days, decision to be married did not rely on the young couple but of their families. Love did not play a part in anything. The family of the male had to ensure that their future daughter-in-law was fit to continue the family line and to help with household chores. With the female’s side, it meant not seeing their daughter for a long time so choosing a husband who will ensure her future is vital.

Although times have changed and not a lot of couples are being “matched” by their families, a parent’s consent or approval of the marriage is still a vital part in a couple’s decision to be together for life.

History and Mindset Combined

Let’s fast forward to now.

This is why marriage to a Chinese woman is important. The traditions and beliefs of the past have somehow embedded themselves in the minds of the Chinese people. As a result, the pressure for a Chinese woman to be married becomes heavy especially when she is of age. Chinese women who have gone over the age of 30 without a husband were considered “left over women”.

If we apply this thinking to the online dating world, this is probably the reason why there are a lot of young Chinese women looking for serious relationships online. There’s also an abundance of Chinese women over 30 years old looking for the same.

Now we know.